How To Deal With Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly

How To Deal With Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly

You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few rough days, what to say to your exweeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started trying to get back out there in the real world.

You’re going out with your friends. You’re doing some exercise. And you’re trying like mad to at least look like you’re getting on with your life – no matter how much you want to get back with your ex.

You’re doing good. You’re looking good. You’re feeling good……well, trying the best you can…….

Then POW!

Out of the blue, your ex walks into the room and it feels like you’ve been punched in the stomach.

Your mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels like it weighs a thousand pounds and you’re caught between a sudden overwhelming urge to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg them take you back.

What do you do?

You say something about how it’s great to see them and make a hasty retreat.

It’s only after you’re out of their presence that you begin to think of all the things you could have, should have, or would have said if you’d been able to think clearly at the time.

Then you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you’d just been able to speak. But, wouldn’t it be nice if you could think of these things ahead of time and have a good idea of what to say to your ex when the moment arrives?

Believe me it would! Especially if you’re interested in getting back with your ex.

Stop getting sucker punched by their presence. Take back the power and let them see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes.

I’m not talking about arranging an “accidental” meeting. That’s not the right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what you’ll say when your paths do cross so that you don’t look like you’re either deliberately avoid your ex or that you are angry with them for the breakup.

Time heals a lot of old wounds. You might be surprised to discover that they’re probably just as nervous about the encounter as you are – even though it you’re not the one who wanted the break-up.

So what should you say?

  1. Keep it short.
  2. Keep it light.
  3. Avoid bringing up the past – leave that to them.

Keep these things in mind. Write a script for yourself. Memorize the script. Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it’s second nature and the next time your paths cross you’ll be ready.

How To Deal With Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly

Did you know that most relationships can be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart….can be saved.

There is a formula to getting your ex back that you can use…but these are techniques and strategies that are not conventional wisdom…and it is doubtful you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

You’ll find them at the Magic Of Making Up  which helps in reconciling couples and in regaining the trust and passion lost due to whatever reasons that caused the breakup.

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